How do find people you can trust, and avoid those who have other agendas – those who work with fear and intimidation? Let’s look at good and bad “Magic”.
When we send a thought to someone, we send an energy impulse to him or her. A casual thought will be dissolved, but when we send strong and/or consistent thoughts, they create binding cords which tie us together. Energy flows through these cords in both directions. While they remain, we are not free to be ourselves. When we assume that others are more special and thus know better than us, we give away our own power. We lower our self-esteem, and we set ourselves up for failure, and dependence upon others.
Your energy is your power, your life force, and having the wrong energy in your body is like having a transfusion of the wrong blood type – it feels very uncomfortable. A relationship does not have to be abusive, bad or wrong to be uncomfortable. You will know when you are attached to someone or something, because your happiness becomes dependant that other person’s good will. There are times when this is right, when it’s a decision you’ve made and one you are happy with. But … there are times when it’s toxic.
People play psychological games with each other with a hidden purpose. There is a great deal of power in this, and it’s used to control others. These interactions are characterised by the assumption that it’s always someone else’s fault, never their own; they deliberately make others feel stupid or guilty; they hide behind cynicism or “dry wit”; and they feel comfortable when some else’s weakness is exposed. In short, they simply cannot accept that there are solutions where both parties can feel good or find a workable compromise.
Another ‘game’ which is frequently used, is the manipulation of time – someone arrives late or early, or makes you wait; manipulation of compassion – presses your guilt buttons, or demands more from you than you feel comfortable to give; or manipulation of sex – unfair assumption of your sexual identity, sexual innuendo or even harassment.
When you feel comfortable with someone, you feel understood, and you don’t feel pressured to be who you are not – then this may be a time to explore further. If not … then don’t.
What do we mean by “magic”? There are five basic types. In the mind of the general public, the word “magic” supposedly refers to “the power of influence” and is recognizable by the “colour” of its purpose and usage:
White magic: this is spirit-based, for the purpose of healing one’s self and others; emphasizes growth and guardianship; enhances, and protects.
We use white magic by:
• lighting candles, using potpourri, hanging wind chimes or crystals;
• using herbs for healing or for cooking;
• protecting natural environments and legacies;
• Creating feasts and fairs for public enjoyment and edification.
Black magic: this is ego-based, for the purpose of adding to one’s self-importance; emphasizes possessions and status.
We use black magic by:
• employing trickery or deceit to fool someone, or cause something to happen;
• Seeking to control others through willpower;
• “arranging” recognition and advancement instead of earning it;
• Threatening, or wishing harm;
• Taking over without permission.
Grey magic: this is belief-based, for the purpose of acquiring attention or imposing a point of view; emphasizes cultural fixations; entices, manipulates and controls.
We use grey magic by:
• Telling “white” lies to avoid facing the truth;
• Engaging in “quick fixes” that compromise integrity,
• Using spiritual “shortcuts” that bypass integration;
• False advertising, half-truths, programming.
Real magic: this is feeling-based, for the purpose of establishing an open and accepting mood; emphasizes receptivity and sensitivity and encourages.
Real magic is when:
• Our forebears understood that when someone was receptive and sensitive enough, that person could then draw toward him or her all manner of unique or desirable happenings, with little or no effort, almost as it “charmed” (possessed of magic).
• Today, receptivity is regarded as a willingness to receive, and an openness that is both responsive and non-judgemental.
• These qualities are important if we want to explore, invent, create, or exhibit the sureness of faith that is open to allowing trust and joy.
Soul magic: this is source-based, for the purpose of learning through experience, so the soul can evolve;
Soul magic is used for
• Self-empowerment,
• Personal responsibility,
• Upliftment, freedom, and bringing together in wholeness.
Most people think of Magic as rather dangerous, manipulative, or requiring a magic wand and a broomstick. Pointed hats and black cats are optional. However, we use magic in one form or another, every day. By working consciously and with integrity, this becomes our own Inner Tuition.